There are two types of people in the world: those who regularly go to their hairdressers and those who only go when absolutely necessary. For the most part, both treat the event as a chore or something that has to be done.
Sound familiar? This is exactly the way many singles approach dating. Instead of seeing it as a way to enhance and enrich their lives, it gets slotted into a “to-do” list that they secretly dread.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Dating and haircuts can seem like a chore but there are ways to make the best of each that will enhance your self-image.
1) It’s Better If You Know What You Want
If you show up at the hairdressers booth, sit down in the stool facing the mirror with a black plastic cover-up and tell the scissor artist what is it you want with our new cut, you will leave the salon a happy camper. Too often, though, people want a change, some more drastic than others, but they aren’t sure what it is they want their locks to look like. Some talented hairdressers will nail a look that will win your approval. However, those cuts are random and far between. Have a few ideas about what it is you would like to fix, alter or see when you leave the salon. It will ensure your happiness with the cut, and take some pressure of the hairdresser.
Like wise, when you’re looking for that special someone, you need to know what it is you want and have a few ideas of your ideal mate. Know who are looking for will help your matchmaker, online dating service or even friends find the right person for you. It takes a bit of self-reflection. Think about your past relationships. What have you been attracted to in the past? What relationships have worked in the past?
2) Be Open to Suggestions
You bring an image of your dream haircut to your hairdresser. The artist tries to sway you in a different direction, telling you that the cut you selected may not bring out YOUR best features. You persist only to discover later that the hairdresser was right. Not everyone can pull off a Jennifer Aniston cut.
After working with tens of thousands of clients through the years, we have found one piece of advice that makes the biggest difference as to whether people are successful at dating or not: “Get out of your comfort zones.” Know what you want, but know where you can be a bit flexible. Preferences like hair color, professions or history can be a bit limiting when searching for someone special. Have your deal breakers (religion, whether or not to have children) but be open to suggestions that will take you out of the dating box.
Which brings us to . . .
3) Try Something New
I have a friend, an engineer, who gets the same haircut every six weeks. It’s the same thing over and over again. This treats haircuts like a “have to” or a chore and not the fun adventure it could be. Haircuts can do amazing things to your outlook, your confidence and can be a reflection of the person you are becoming. Try something new once in awhile. Change it up.
One of the biggest mistakes singles make when they are dating is dating the same type of person over and over again but expecting different results. Date people who have similiar core values but different professions, backgrounds and interests. People are unique — there is no need to continue to fish in the same pond when a different one will yield better fish.
The biggest take away here is that dating doesn’t have to be something you have to do or a chore. It’s a way to learn more about yourself while meeting new people. Use this time of your life to try something new. Learn something new. It’s really about pushing your boundaries and figuring out what you want going forward than just getting the same cut every time.
Enjoy your dating experiences.